You’ll Never Find Your Unicorn

Bottom line— unicorns are only found in Disney and Harold and Kumar movies. They’re not found in the real world.

“If I just made more money then my worries would be over.”

youll never find your unicorn

“If I start my own company then I can finally take it easy.”

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“If my wife would just listen to me then our relationship would be perfect.”

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The list goes on.

I learned about (if-then) conditional statements in high school math. They have their place, but it’s not practical in determining the satisfaction of your life.

“If I  _________, then I’ll be happy.”

A majority of us are hunting for this unicorn thinking it’s going to set us free. We are waiting for this unicorn to give us permission to take action. It’ll finally make us successful and happy—it’ll give us more time, more sex, faster cars, a bigger house, cooperative clients, the list goes on. Once we find this unicorn, life is going to be just grand.

Delusional thinking at its finest.

70% of lottery winners end up bankrupt. Money was their unicorn. When they hit the jackpot, they probably thought their life troubles were over. We’ve all probably said this to yourselves, “If I just won the Powerball, life would be so easy.” Nevertheless, these poor souls had money is mismanaged—they adopted unhealthy addictions—their lives fell apart. Tragic.

“If I quit my job to travel the world then I’ll find myself and know what to do with my life.” -Del Singh

I have a feeling I joined the long list of others that had this ambition. Among other reasons, I took a sabbatical to backpack southeast Asia in search of my unicorn. My unicorn was an “aha” moment where I’d suddenly find myself and then everything would fall into place. Life would be grand.

Delusional thinking at its finest.

We enjoy the fantasy of success or happiness that our unicorn will bring us. Our hope is that when an event takes place, we’ll then be free to move forward. When in reality, we fail to realize how happy and grateful we should already be.

We fail to realize that we have to work to make time for activities that are going to rejuvenate us. We fail to ask ourselves what is truly going to make us happy. We fail to ask ourselves why we want something. We flat out fail to do what it takes.

You may be missing something in your life. Extra zeros in your paycheck, a beautiful woman on your side, or a brand new car. All of these sound wonderful. But given the tendency of human nature, it’ll never be enough. We always want more. We are always on the chase. I have to blame consumerism for this. Pop culture, media, advertising—they do a phenomenal job of telling us what we “need.”

“Give a wolf food, they’ll be hungry tomorrow. Give a man gold, he’ll want more tomorrow. Give a man wisdom, he’ll cease to ask you for anything.” 

I’m hoping I made that up because I have no recollection of where I got this.

If you are reading this then I’m going to go on a limb and say that life dealt you a good hand. But for whatever reason, it may not be good enough for you. If it’s not good enough for you now, then it never will be. When you find the time to be happy and grateful with where you are—when you find the time to do the things that rejuvenate you right now, then you will allow yourself to comfortably move forward.


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